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You Deserve to Feel and Look Good

Friday, June 23, 2017
Some people misconceive taking care of one's physical appearance, interpreting it as being vain or conceited. Some people view self care negatively, and they assume that people who watch their diet are foolish, or that people who go to the gym to get killer abs are narcissistic.

Some people think that girls (and guys) who put effort into the clothes they wear are trying too hard, and that they shouldn't worry so much about impressing strangers. Those who want to dress up fabulously decide not to, because the world will just throw judgments that them.

Your Life, Your Beliefs

Saturday, June 17, 2017
You'd think that when we're born, we're blank slates. White canvasses that are ready to be painted with the wonders of this world. We're made to believe that we have all the freedom to shape our lives into what we'd like it to become, but that's not always the case. We were born already with beliefs, some of which we don't truly agree with. We were born to think a certain way because that's how our parents and their parents think. 

We were born with these vital things already determined for us, but that doesn't mean it has to be that way for the rest of our lives.

Can You Just Be Happy for Me?

Saturday, June 10, 2017
So you accomplish something. Let's say your essay got published in a national newspaper. You feel ecstatic because you've been dreaming about this since who-knows-when. Family members and friends congratulate you, they tell you how proud they are of you, but in the crowd, one annoying face sticks out, and they have only one thing to say:

"It isn't that good."

Well, that's one of the things they could say, among an endless list of unhappy comments such as, "Who cares?", "You could've done better", and "I don't think it's much of an achievement" but you get the point. No matter how successful you've become, there will always be people who won't see that as a good thing. There'll always be people who can't and won't be happy for you.

The "Giving Back" Mindset

Wednesday, June 7, 2017
I've been lucky enough to have been raised in an environment where I never felt obliged to "give back" to family. There were never statements like, "You need to study so you can give back and help our family" or "We raised you, so you need to give back to us." I was always taught to work toward my desired future, and to think selfishly sometimes. Of course, I was taught to never take anything for granted, but the concept of obligation to owe family was never introduced to me.

I understand that it's not the same for others, and to me, I feel as though planting that idea in the child's mind isn't entirely a good thing. 

Not Just a Pretty Face

Sunday, June 4, 2017
Ever since I started wearing makeup and putting more effort into my fashion choices, some people have been saying that I've learned to ignore the important things. By important, I mean academics, grades, performing as the 'ideal' student. The thought of that never occurred to me until they mentioned it because honestly, I never felt like I was ignoring anything 'important'. 

It would seem like some people equate putting importance on appearance to doing poorly in other aspects. It's as though acting on one thing negates the other, which isn't the case at all. I guess the "pretty girl" stereotype hasn't ceased to exist.