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Women Can Have Careers

Sunday, November 1, 2015
I've heard many times that women are destined to spend their lives as wives or mothers. Occasionally, people say (along with some backbiting and gossiping about a certain unmarried female neighbor) that women should pause and look for a husband so that they can start making families. This may be due to the culture or the upbringing of these people, but whatever the reasons may be, I'm sure that other girls have also heard similar phrases.

I once expressed my absence of openness to motherhood to my friends and received surprising responses. You would think that girls my age would understand that gender roles are vanishing, and that women are stepping out of the shadows, but from their reactions, that thought has been proven wrong. I told them that I wanted a career more than anything, and that having a family was never in my list of priorities. They answered by exchanging glances and telling me that I would eventually change my mind.

When I expressed this to more people, I was greeted by, "When you have a kid, what will happen to him/her?" "Don't you want to give your care to your family?" and the worst response, "All women should settle down." Maybe it was the poor choice of respondents, or maybe I was just facing the truth that some people still can't accept that women can have lives outside of motherhood, outside of being wives.

To say that having careers is for men alone is wrong in all aspects. I once saw an illustration where a man was praised for his excellence in his career path, while a successful woman was shamed for being selfish. To say that men should be in the "woman's place" is also wrong. Men and women should have equal opportunities in their chosen careers, and the same goes with the choices that they make. Men can stay home. Women can run businesses. It is not a matter of gender expectations or pride, but it is simply a matter of preference.

A woman who chooses to succeed in her career and focus on that should not be called selfish. A woman who wishes to be among the list of the Most Successful should not be pressured into using her gender for its "true purpose". A woman should not be labeled as someone who belongs in a house with a white picket fence. A woman should be able to decide on how she wants to run her life. 

Ladies and gents, we've entered the time for change. It's time people learned to accept that gender roles can be stupid and unnecessary. It's about time people saw women as individuals who are capable of succeeding outside their stereotypes. It's time for women to stop feeling ashamed of choosing career over family. It's time to burn all of the stereotypes and just let both men and women do their thing.

I've said it once, but I'll say it once more: you should not be against something or bothered about something if it doesn't negatively affect the world.
5 comments on "Women Can Have Careers"
  1. I'm having a bit of the opposite problem- in a world where career women are becoming more and more common, I find that it's expected of me to have a career when I really don't want one. Some people just don't want careers. I'm definitely the kind of person who was born a century too late because my goal is to be a housewife and then a stay-at-home-mom. I love the idea of only having to worry about being a good wife and taking care of the house and chores and then children. I never want to worry about having a job, even though there are a few things I could do to earn some money here and there (like continuing with freelance editing). But the vision that everyone has of the traditional housewife- that's what I want to be, and I'm afraid that I won't be able to because it's not something you can work towards, like a career. If I don't find a husband with a good job, that vision won't come true. And that's harder to do in today's society. Chances are I'll have to have a career first and I'm really not looking forward to that, but if I must I must.

    1. Hi Alicia. There's nothing wrong with wanting to be a housewife and stay-at-home mom. I think it's great that you'd like to have this! Personally I feel that you can choose whatever path you'd like to take, may it be career-directed or family-oriented. I just thought I'd voice out what I thought about societies where women are still expected to be in the house alone. Simply put, women can be anything they wish! x

  2. Good post. Thank you for your support in equality.

  3. Great post because sometimes I feel the same way. I personally feel that women - and men - should be, as you said, given the opportunity to choose their paths without the constrictions and expectations of traditional gender roles. If a man WANTS to be a stay-at-home dad, let him. He shouldn't be put under pressure just because he doesn't conform to what's been done since time immemorial. And if a woman doesn't want to get married, she should be given the freedom to do make the life she wants without people trying to dissuade simply because they can't imagine themselves doing the same thing.

    1. Hi Jee Ann Marie. I'm glad that you agree with what I said. More people should learn to think that, as well! x


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