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Communication Can Be Learned

Sunday, June 26, 2016
If you would have asked me ten years ago if I could imagine myself speaking to a crowd, I would have shyly looked at my shoes and said no. I'm pretty sure that if you would've asked me that, you would've been asking a terrified girl, dreading her solo presentation and thinking of a way to get sick in order to skip that.

Years ago, I could not even speak to people in regular conversation. I would clam up, panic, and end up shaking my head. Now, I'm proud to say that I've given a speech overseas. I've felt the warm welcome of the stage as I give presentations for class. I do not freak out whenever I need to give discussions to more than thirty people. I've learned to communicate, and so can you.

You need to understand first that learning to communicate takes willingness. A person who does not want to learn how to write will never do. A person who removes himself from situations which can help him improve will never learn. At first, you might feel hesitant to throw yourself in there and communicate. But the second you do step into that puddle of willingness and learning, the faster you get better.

Being willing does not necessarily mean saying yes to hosting gigs, volunteering for speeches, or reading poetry in front of a crowd. A simple nod of acceptance is enough. It's when you recognize the need o communicate, accept that there's no way of getting out of it, and eventually take that opportunity as something positive.

So you've taken your first baby steps, fantastic. Now you want to improve, right? This is where self-assessment comes in.

To improve, you must be aware of your strengths and weaknesses. Be proud of the areas in which you excel, but continue to work on the areas that need work. Don't pity yourself of put yourself down just yet -- mistakes come to everybody. Read, research, and apply those techniques in day-to-day conversation. If you think you lack eye contact, be aware of that every time you talk. If you think you fail to grab the audience's attention immediately, find something that'll make you interesting.

This is a given, but you must learn to be patient. You cannot be a shy and quiet girl one day, and be the most inspirational speaker the next. It could take years for you to shed your old skin, and that's normal. It depends on how far you push yourself and how much you desire change.

Finally, just have fun with it. Look at communication simply. Don't bother about the communication models or cycles or all that fancy-sounding crap. It's just you, your friend/s, and a story that needs to be told. Learn to relax and imagine speaking to a group of close friends. Ignore terminologies and all that, because you'll end up overthinking and communicating ineffectively.

I'm not a master in Communication, but I have learned and grown from experience. I'm telling you all of this as a normal person who has experienced being mortified by public speaking/talking in general. I'm a normal person who has overcome those difficulties.
And so can you.
8 comments on "Communication Can Be Learned "
  1. Dayummm ������������ #inspiration #motivation

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    1. Daaaaayum! Nice emojis! I can't see them but I know they're there and they look FABULOUS!

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  2. I always admire you gail ��������

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    1. That's such a lovely thing to say! Love your emojis too! Haha! x

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  3. I've read in a book something like this:
    Don't be too vain that you focus on yourself and your fears rather than on the audience' needs.

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    1. Yes! It's all about making sure people have a good time when they listen to you, right? (Referring to public speaking)

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  4. I've read in a book something like this:
    Don't be too vain that you focus on yourself and your fears rather than on the audience' needs.

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  5. Well.. I needed this. Thanks! I thought I would swallow myself again in pity, thank goodness I read this.

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